Think about the filters you use to eliminate people from consideration as potential romantic partners. What characteristics or behaviours lead you to judge others as unattractive? Does Duck's theory make sense to you? Have you ever eliminated someone by using a sociological or pre-interaction cue only to reconsider them based on interaction and cognitive cues?
I have used Duck's theory to make decisions for women recently when I have been out in public. Giving myself a set standard and specific characteristics for what I want is something I grown to use. It helps me make the situation light or complicated when I am sending signals to the person. Some of the main signals that I look for are posture, enthusiastic and hygiene. I also look at the way she dresses since I can tell a lot about a person by the way they are dressing or the style they are presenting. A person that I would cancel out when I judge them would be a person speaking a different language that I would not be able to communicate with or a person that is not open to meeting people or seems like they are not having fun. I tend to believe in people creating energy and the attractiveness that people have with that energetic presence.
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ReplyDeleteI found your post very interesting. It is very interesting because it shows the difference in the ways men and women look at relationships. Comparing your post to mine, your relationship standards seem to be very similar but yet very different. I do admit looking to the physical attraction aspect first but feel I am shallow for allowing that to influence who I would have a relationship with. The next attribute I look to is more along the lines of intelligence. I see you mentioned materialism or the way a person is dressed as being an important factor in selecting a partner. My only question with that is what if they just got off work and were in work clothes or if they were a wonderful person inside but could not afford such materialistic items, does that make them less likely to be selected by you as a partner? Is your culture very into materialism? I think we follow the leads set by our immediate cultural members. Good post!!!
Yes looking good is important for attraction and shallow? depends i dont look at someone who looks like they just came out of bed and does not seem interesting to talk to. Get where i am coming from? Its a selection process that we all use.
ReplyDeleteI liked how you talked about energy with people. Energy and how people carry themselves is a more abstract way of judging people. But, it is a really weird vibe that is immediate and important when we accept or eliminate a person as being attractive. I always find it hard to accept people who dress nicely and are attractive but have this bad energy or unwelcoming demeanor. Energy and overall personality are not always visable but, are immediately noticable when judging a person.
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